Why NOW is the time to empower our Young Boys

At this present moment the world seems in certain disarray.

Whilst on the brink of a what seems like a possible World War, the last thing we need is to continue the civil war within our own homes, our own suburbs and the cities we grow up in.

In hindsight the world has evolved more in the last 10 years than the 40 before it.

And it has no signs of slowing down. Not in the slightest.

Damnit that is scary to think about.

It literally feels like that as an individual, there is nothing we can do. As if we just strap in for the ride and hope for the best.

What if I told you that there is something you can do though. Something that will make the biggest impact on your community and in turn your city and furthermore, your country.

What if I told you that the one thing you can do is to empower our young Boys.

You see, the worst thing we can have in our society is a generation of young males who are nothing short of disablers. Who have been told that they are inadequate in their ability to be educated, their ability to contribute and have never been mentored and guided by a well-rounded Male role model. Did you know that young males have the highest rate of juvenile incarceration, the highest rate of re-offenses and also up to 2 times more likely to be diagnosed with a form of Attention Deficit Disorder. This is not to mention the alarming rate of depression and suicide that is impacting our community and families.

To have a future generation grow up thinking that they have little to contribute to their society or even their country is more than just a damn shame on so many lives, it is downright dangerous. Now, I understand there isn’t a simple solution to this complex rabbit labyrinth of an issue. I understand it goes much deeper than a simple bout of positive thinking and a teaspoon of cement.

But we cannot allow the size of the issue consume us and stall us in taking action. We also cannot continue to keep the learning process for all of us the same. We all know you shouldn’t judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree. Again, I am not providing a solution to the problems that our education systems have. I would be lying if I said I had a formula to this web, because I don’t. In fact, I am not sure there is one. What I want to turn our attention to is ‘what we can do’.

I am also aware that we need to empower our young girls, too. I don’t want to ignore that. It is important to understand that this piece has been inspired from my days of growing up in my younger years and my own personal beliefs and experiences. I am not able to walk into a room of females and have the same influence compared to a room full of young men. In all honesty females are not the ones bashing other females in the home. Sure, there is domestic violence towards males too which needs to be addressed, this is a hidden problem within our culture. The truth is, domestic violence against females is far, far higher than the opposing equation. Don’t get me wrong, violence is violence. We do however need to enable these young men from an early age to change from a culture of abusers (in more ways than one) to a culture of leaders. It is hard to say, but as nice as the gesture is, sharing a post on Facebook to raise awareness is simply not enough action to really make a change in the home. We need to be able to invite bravery, courage and integrity to our young men. Something our schools don’t teach and something that is hard to install within our youth when they spend such little time in a busy house hold with stressed parents. This is absolutely nothing against the efforts of the parents, it is in fact a sad reality for most households.

I lived a large chunk of my childhood with a single parent. My mother tried her best with a teenage male who had goals larger than life and the stubbornness of a goat off a leash. Truth be told, I grew up around alcoholism, domestic violence and countless visits to Centrelink from an early age. My Mother, through all her troubles, has the heart of a saint and my father would never lay a hand on a woman. He was bigger than that. Unfortunately some of the other male “role models” in my life didn’t have the same values or conscious. I want to point out that this story isn’t about me, or my family. There is no victim here, and if there is, it certainly isn’t me.

What it is about is a 10 year old boy watching all of this happen in front of him and at that age there is literally nothing you can do against domestic violence and alcoholism. You are utterly powerless. This is about the thousands of 10 year old boys around this country and the world today that will go through the same thing. We cannot be certain how they will respond to it. What we can be certain of is that they will have a choice. I know this because I had a choice of going one of two ways.

One of them is simply not an option.

We must empower our young boys into respectable young men.

Young men who contribute to society who are leaders at work, in public and in their homes.

To lead in the home means to do whatever duties are needed to be done to share the load with their partner. To bring in money, to change the nappies, to cook the food and complete the repairs. Funnily enough, they are the same duties both parents in the household can do. It does not mean to have someone who is passive or submissive. Do not get that point mixed up. With three older sisters, they taught me that it had very little to do with your gender and a lot to do with your will and desire.

How do we do this?

We need programs that allow our young boys to learn from role models and learn to channel their energy in ways that contribute to society and build up their personal worth. I am working with a group of Leaders in the Thinking, Health and Community space to build a program that helps to develop our young boys into respectable Men.

As I said before, the worst thing our society can have is a generation of male youth who don’t understand their value and who therefore act accordingly. Deep down we all need to feel important. If we aren’t able to enable this generation coming through, they will find ways to do it themselves. Unfortunately, that means crime, social media abuse and delinquent public behaviour.

The next generation is both the problem and the solution and It’s up to us to act accordingly.

So, the next question is; What will you do?

If you are interested in finding out more information on the program we are putting together then please email dave@thehumanmovement.com.au with the subject – From Streets to Strength. Please provide your name, a contact number and how you see yourself contributing. This is important to us, the boys and the community. Please understand that we will put in as much effort to your enquiry as you do.

Dave Nixon