Revolution: The 3 main hurdles to success and how to overcome them
I feel it is almost safe to assume that we all want to be successful.
As true as this, what is certain is that there are three main hurdles that one will face on the way to attaining said success.
- We lack the ability to define what success means to us
- We do not set our target clear enough with a specific direction
- Our ‘why’ is impotent
We are rarely taught to set goals during school. Our parents, unless self-taught, weren’t either. This becomes a vicious cycle of get a job, buy a house, raise some kids and be safe. All the while the people we look up to at have been broke or maybe even homeless whilst usually staying risk inclined and opportunistic.
So if you are not currently investing time quarterly each year to go over your goals and direction, then it is something I highly recommend you do. If you are stuck for a structure on how to go about goal setting, then one is provided below.
Firstly, let me cover off on a bit of housekeeping.
- If you don’t want to call them goals then don’t.
A lot of people feel funny about calling it goal setting or anything along those lines. So just fucking change what it’s called. Don’t just not do it. You have to change the rules so you can win, so call it dream planning, success structuring, future building…Whatever. It doesn’t matter what you want to call it, you just have to set the time aside to do it. Success doesn’t happen by accident.
- Hands up if goal setting felt weird the first one or two times you did it?
Yep. It feels strange as. Usually because we do it as adults and well anything new we do as adults just simply must be wrong if it doesn’t feel right the first time. If it was taught to us when we were kids then we would just see it as part of what it is we do each month or quarter. But for most of us, it wasn’t. It's going to feel weird the first few times you do it. Don’t let this deter you from setting your sails.
- Use what works for your brain.
My goals are done on butchers papers and with all different coloured pens. I color-code, and like seeing the things I want to work on displayed in front of me. Some of my clients prefer to have them written in black and white on the computer. Just do what works for you and not for someone else. Whatever you do, put them where you can see them at least daily. Repetition does wonders for your brain. Just like the lyrics you know to the song you hate.
- SMART goals might be keeping you dumb, fat and unhappy.
SMART goals (Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Realistic, Timely) simply may not work for you. They don’t for me. I have an extremely artistic and emotional approach to my goals. Mine are more dream driven. They have more of an emotional inclusion, and I suck at setting timeframes. I still set timeframes but am flexible in understanding how long some things actually take. All that aside, what’s realistic? Making a light bulb was not realistic. Flying people across oceans in a capsule that weighed a couple of hundred ton was not realistic. SMART goals might be setting you up for failure and therefore evidence to your brain that you aren’t any good. It’s not true.
REMEMBER – THESE ARE YOUR GOALS. YOU CAN LITERALLY CALL THEM AND BUILD THEM HOWEVER YOU WANT. DO NOT HAVE A FILTER OF WHAT OTHERS MAY THINK IF THEY SEE THEM. DON’T LET OTHER PEOPLES POTENTIAL OPINIONS STOP YOU FROM PURSUING WHAT LIGHTS YOUR FIRE.
Once you understand all of this it is now important that you define what success means to you.
The best definition I have heard of ‘success’ was spoken by Jaret Grossman. Jaret defines success as: the magnitude of the beneficial footprint you leave upon society.
So you have to define what success looks like to you so you know what to work towards. If you find it hard to do so then write down the qualities and values of the people you look up to and use those words in a structure sentence that has meaning to you.
So, want to know how to structure your goal-setting-dream-pursuing-world-dominating time aside?