Water your fucking garden

If life were a garden bed then your mistakes are the fertilizer that grows the beautiful flowers. Those who have not made any mistakes have no fertilizer to use. The shit situations that occur throughout your life are and always will be an opportunity to grow something beautiful from it.

 

So water your fucking garden and weed it as necessary. Don’t try and control what grows, just control what you decide to pull out.

 

Weed out those that no longer serve you.

 

You can do that, you know?

 

Remove people and thoughts from your life that no longer serve you. It’s pretty bad ass actually. It’s pretty liberating. In fact, there is only one person that you can’t kick out of your life. And that person is you. So you better figure out a way to get the fuck along with yourself otherwise it is going to be a long hard road.

 

The truth is, most people don’t even like themselves so don’t stress about trying to get people to like you. You have to like you.

 

Because happiness is not outside of you.

 

Happiness is you.

 

The more you reach out, the less you find.

 

The more you attack, the further away you will get from it.

 

Because no-body ever hurt someone from a place of happiness.

 

So never let someone’s action or reaction make you think that it is a direct reflection of who you are. It is only a reflection of what is inside of them. The way you respond is the reflection of you.

 

We often romance the thought that we don’t have complete control over our own minds as it is far easier to just be controlled than it is to control. Now I know there are extreme circumstances where this is a WHOLE other conversation. I also do understand that there for the majority of us, we may constantly have negative thoughts that come into our psyche. That seep into our consciousness. Truth is, we have to accept the responsibility of inviting them in. Sometimes we don’t even mean to, and that’s ok. That’s not the important part, the important part is what you choose to do with them.

 

You are not your thoughts. You are the thoughts you deem to be true. We know that if we talked to other people the same way we talked to ourselves then we wouldn’t have any friends. Be fucking kind to yourself. Be disciplined, sure, but overall be kind.

 

If every thought were to be a flower or a weed then you have to understand that weeds will still grow. Just pull them out. Weeds can sometimes be thoughts and they can sometimes be people. Either way we cannot remove them until we understand that it was us that let them in.

 

Understanding this doesn’t make you a weak person. Quite the contrary actually. By removing what no longer serves you is also removing what no longer serves it.

 

It is ok to weed out the bad. It allows the rest of those that make your garden beautiful, grow.

 

This is why you shouldn’t reach out to other peoples garden thinking their flowers will somehow make you happy. Water your fucking garden. Grow your own.

 

Take control of your happiness by watering your own garden.

 

Because I promise you that right now the worrying you have in your life does not serve you. Worrying won’t take care of your garden bed. Worrying is literally visualising what you don’t want. Worrying is a weed.

 

It does not serve those around you. Other flowers cannot grow from it. It serves no greater purpose but to keep you in a place of scarcity.

 

Remember; your life is not happening to you, you are not victim to it. You are happening to life.

 

Your garden is where you farm your happiness.

 

Always water your majestic, creative, beautiful fucking garden and weed out the things that hinder its growth.

 

Peace.

Dave Nixon